Dear Steve and Shirley,
My husband and I have been married for four years, but we've been together for twelve years. We've been back and forth with a lot of our decisions. At first, we didn't think we had to get married to make our relationship work. I changed my mind and wanted a wedding. Now here we are after saying we did not want any children. We have a four month old daughter.
I'm forty three, so as you know, it's harder for older moms. I went back into the office a month ago. My husband is a flight attendant, so his schedule is all over the place. He suggested that one of our good friends move in temporarily to help us with our daughter. She's divorced and in between jobs, so he offered to pay her. I thought it was a sweet gesture, but now I'm sick of her. Honestly, I'm sick of both her and my husband, and it's only been two weeks.
I can't focus while I'm working because I'm worried about what's going on with my baby, my husband, and our friend while I'm not at home. There is a nice day bed in our baby's room, but our friend chooses to sleep on our couch so she can watch TV at night. She's more of my husband's friend than mine, so I expected him to tell her to sleep in the bed and not on our other furniture. But I should have known he wouldn't do it because they sit up all night ‘ke-keing’ and playing cards. I can hardly sleep now because if they get quiet in the living room, I go peeking there to make sure nothing's going on.
She is more of a problem than a helper. How do I break the news to her that she's got to go? How do I get my husband to be okay with my decision?