Dear Steve and Shirley,
I've been married for thirteen years to my best friend. We've done everything together for the last twenty years, and we can darn near finish each other's sentences. He has been a great dad to our two dogs, and he will do anything for my mom and dad. He also loves my best friend as much as I do, and they get jealous and fight over who's really my best friend.
She's had the worst dating experiences, and after her last few bad dates, she came to our house, and we popped open a bottle of wine, listened to some music, and smoked weed. But lately, our vibe has been off. She and I have been going out without my husband. He always says he has something else to do. She's been inviting me to all kinds of odd activities that we'd never do, like a paint-and-sip party. We've been roller skating, to a WNBA game, and to a stage play—all without my husband.
It's almost like my husband has asked my best friend to get me out of the house so he can go cheat. Once, when I called my husband and could not reach him, she said that my husband needs some space, so give him a break. She should never speak on my husband like that. I see now that she might be too close to my husband, and I don't like that.
Yesterday, he texted me to ask if we'd ordered our food yet. I was at lunch with my best friend, and I hadn't told him where I was going. He was supposed to be helping his brother cut down a tree, so how were his hands free to text me? I am sure that his text was meant for my best friend.
My intuition tells me that she's running interference. What do you think? Am I paranoid or what?