Dear Steve and Shirley,
My fiancé and his baby mama text and call each other more than I'm comfortable with. He claims it’s for the sake of their two children, but I can see where she's crossed the line. Many times, she sends selfies to my fiancé with a kiss emoji, and recently, she even sent him pictures of her liposuction and breast lift, again with a kiss emoji. He excuses everything she does because she also sends pictures of the kids.
Even with her new body, she still can’t get a man of her own. I told him to ask her to stop sending inappropriate texts, but he's afraid to upset her and risk not being in his kids' lives. I don't understand how that will happen, especially since the children are with us eighty-five percent of the time. I told him that he must like the pictures because there's no way he can't tell her to stop sending them. Last year, I said something to her, and she got mad at him and took him back to court. The judge sided with her and increased my fiancé’s child support payments—or our child support payments—because I now have to help him pay every month. As a family, we simply cannot keep footing the bill for her to have surgery.
Yesterday, I lost it when she sent him a picture of her new braces. He got so mad that he said he doesn’t want any more children for a while. I'm marrying him with the expectation of starting a family together. Now, I’m thinking it’s time to walk away from this three-way love affair. But I've invested so much time into this relationship. Why won't he tell her to chill? Would I be nuts to marry him and his baby mama?