Hello Shirley and Steve,

 I'm a Midwesterner now currently residing in Memphis Tennessee. Since living here I've begun dating this guy. He's a little older. Charming smart college educated. Good job no kids no failed or current marriages and has been there for me when I've needed him with all these good qualities. 

He has one really bad one that is important to me and he's HORRIBLE in bed on all caps horrible.

 I don't think anyone can get the true gist of what I mean when I say he's horrible he is challenge down there and more often than not has reached his destination before I even knew we were in the car. He also enjoys what I do for him but does not reciprocate. Although I've expressed that I'm a huge fan of it as well. It's just bad all the way around. We have had open and serious discussions about this issue and I don't know if he's embarrassed or what but this horrible bedroom performance and my displeasure seems to be some sort of sick joke to him at which I don't find funny in the least bit. So I'm writing you to ask what should I do. 

Because I really like the man but oh my goodness his sex is the worst. Please give advice. Quick, fast thank you.